Marriage is a good idea because it is God’s idea (see Gen 1:27-28; 2:21-25). Rulings in the Supreme Court (see Obergefell v. Hodges in 2015) or laws considered or passed in congress (like the misnamed and misleading “Respect for Marriage Act”) won’t change that. 

As our culture once again tries to redefine marriage, this time at the legislative level, it’s important for faithful followers of Jesus to be clear on his view of what marriage is and why it matters. Humanity did not invent marriage, so we don’t have the authority to redefine it.  

Jesus Defines Marriage 

“Some  Pharisees came to Jesus, testing Him and asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?” 4 And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”—Matthew 19:3-6 (NASB) 

Jesus is clear on what marriage is: One Man + One Woman + One Flesh + One Lifetime 

This is for our good and for His glory. Jesus grounded this definition in revealed reality by referring back to God’s creational blueprint in Genesis 1-2 (which is prior to humanity’s rebellious fall into sin Gen 3). 

Clarity and courage are important because human flourishing and God’s glory are involved. 


What is the Respect for Marriage Act? 

 Alliance Defending Freedom (ADF) offers a helpful summary of the Respect for Marriage Act of what this bill is, its implications, and how you can advocate for marriage and religious freedom.  

 In short here are the implications of this bill:

 “While proponents of the bill claim that it simply codifies the 2015 Obergefell decision, in reality it is an intentional attack on the religious freedom of millions of Americans with sincerely held beliefs about marriage.  

The Respect for Marriage Act threatens religious freedom and the institution of marriage in multiple ways: 

  1. It further embeds a false definition of marriage in the American legal fabric. 
  2. It opens the door to federal recognition of polygamous relationships. 
  3. It jeopardizes the tax-exempt status of nonprofits that exercise their belief that marriage is the union of one man and one woman. 
  4. It endangers faith-based social-service organizations by threatening litigation and liability risk if they follow their views on marriage when working with the government. 
  5. The truth is the Respect for Marriage Act does nothing to change the status of same-sex marriage or the benefits afforded to same-sex couples following Obergefell. It does much, however, to endanger religious freedom.” (read more)


Biblical Faithfulness and Rebuilding a Culture of Marriage 

 As important as it is for faithful Christians to vote and advocate in the political sphere, it is more important for us to be faithful in our marriages and fuel the cultural imagination of the next generation on the good of marriage and why God designed marriage the way he did. In his book Chasing Love: Sex, Love, and Relationships in a Confused Culture, Sean McDowell paints a biblical and compelling portrait. 

In the end, faithful followers of Jesus are called to stand where God says stand, say what God has said, and love as God has commanded us to love. The Word of the Lord will stand forever even if cultures continue to choose to disregard God’s design for what leads to human flourishing. 

Additional Resources:

Chasing Love: Sex, Love, and Relationships in a Confused Culture- Sean McDowell

Same Sex Marriage by Sean McDowell and John Stonestreet (book)  

Three Myths About Marriage (Podcast) – Sean McDowell

What Is Marriage (Video) – Ryan Anderson

What You Should Know About the Respect for Marriage Act (Article) – Alliance Defending Freedom